• Teenagers’ problems with parents.
• How to live with a teenager.

• How to guide teenagers properly.

• How to raise a successful teenager.

• How to behave with teenagers.

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In today’s world, every parent is very worried about their teenager. Being a parent, are you not worried about one of the following!

• The child’s/ teenager’s education. 
• Child’s physical and mental development.
• Guiding the child in the right direction and reaching the perfect goal.
• In the heyday of social media and gaming, how to keep the child away from these.
• During adolescence, the attraction toward the outside world, i.e. friends, and clubs increases.
• Teenagers are now increasingly prone to drinking and smoking.
• Tendency to underage sex and the possibility of sexual abuse.
• Turning away from nutritious homemade vegetables they are more attracted to junk food and spicy and tasty readymade foods.
• Increasing anger and stubbornness.

Every parent must think about the progress and development of the child but must remember that their thinking must not go to the point of anxiety. The first and foremost duty of a parent is to guide the teenagers in the right direction. It is also the responsibility of the parents to make the child aware of the world as the child sees the light of the world through them. Perhaps the most beautiful thing in the world for a parent is to see his or her child can move forward on the right path in life with great confidence and determination after being left alone. 

When a child learns to walk on his own two feet, he walks with confidence, parents become happy to see him, and their minds are filled with joy, just as if a teenager is on the right path and has confidence in his/her goals, towards establishing himself/ herself, his/ her parents are filled with pride and joy.

The minds of each and every one of us, from children to the elderly, wander from hither and thither. Our mind receives billions of bits of information every second, but out of them it processes and registers a very small fraction of them.  As adults, we all know what we should and shouldn’t register in our minds, but many bad habits, bad news, and bad events which disturb us are registered in our minds and we carry it. Now think of a child or teenager, their logical mind is not well developed, and their experience is also very low, naturally what is attractive to them, gives instant pleasure will quickly register in their mind. 

One of our extraordinary and incomparable qualities, as human beings are curiosity, the curiosity of understanding something new. From infants to teenagers this level of interest is extra. Adults are able to understand what is good and what is bad through various experiences and thus control their own interests.  No teenagers restrain interest or want to do so or they have such experience to do so.  On the contrary, until they are able to unravel the mystery or find out something like them, they get excited about things. The last two years, especially since the Covid 19 Pandemic Situation, have had a profound effect on the mental and physical health of everyone from children to teenagers, which we as parents have rarely realized. In some cases, however, this can be perceived as an increase in the severity of the child and they are using it in a negative way. The tendency of committing suicide among teenagers is increasing day by day.

Almost every family in the present age suffers from the problems of teenagers.  Getting teenagers out from here is not a big deal. The really serious problem is to get teenagers out of such situations, out of such negatives, the way we use them, the way we live our lives, the way we behave with them. Adolescents are unlikely to change their minds unless their parents change their behavior and thinking. Parents will follow the usual way, give priority to their likes and dislikes, and try to impose restrictions on their children and they will have to follow their instructions, then they will go astray. 

These are small but very important points I will discuss that every parent should consciously pay attention to. Remember that any pressure or counseling will not work unless you change these little things about yourself and your home environment. 

                                                                               

Remember that you are parents, not their ruler: Young children want to spend time open-heartedly, talk heartily and of course, they have a desire to learn new things. It is no doubt the error generally done by the parents from the beginning that is instead of behaving as friends with their children they became the hard rules. You will see, we always try hard to control the child from their very childhood, feed them forcefully when they don’t want to eat, scold them whenever not want to read, stop them when they want to go to play, we forbid them to touch anything. Repeatedly the ill effects of such behavior continue to fall on children.  Gradually their behavior begins to change and become defendants and want to be independent, though may not say anything in fear but try to find a way to get rid of this bondage. In order to protest against such behavior of parents, they try to do more things that parents do not like. Never try to rule them, even if they do wrong.  Be patient, talk to them slowly and explain to them, what could happen to their lives if they do something you don’t like, and what opportunities they will miss. Explain to them what they will get in the future if they obey. 

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Become the best friend, philosopher, and guide of your child: Teenage is a very sensitive age, as friendship grows, so does the possibility of falling in love for the first time. There is nothing wrong with either of them, but the problem is, what kind of company did they have or whom did they fall in love with. This type of tendency is more prevalent in teenagers because many of them want to share a lot and want to talk openly. The child spends most of the time with the parents but cannot share with them because the parents do not make friends with their child. They take care of the child, listen to the caresses, but mix with the children like a friend, give importance to their words, and give importance to their likes and dislikes, these remain vague. Interact with the child from the heart so that they have the freedom to share everything, to feel free. Being serious and always trying to dominate children, especially teenagers increases the stubbornness and anger many times over.

Encourage the child, and become their trust, supporters. Encourage them to do different things, and always inspire them to make certain choices without trying to stop them. 

At the time of making rules in the family, apply them equally to everyone: It is a small thing but its effects are far-reaching. Suppose you tell your child or make a rule for him/her to get up at 6 in the morning every day, you and the rest of the family must follow this rule also. Never let the feeling come to him/her that there are different rules for him/her, he/she is alone at home, no one else is with him/her. This feeling will drive them away from you, depress them, and make them stubborn. 

Don’t try to hide anything from teenagers: If you try to hide something from your child, it will become a mystery to them. They will somehow try to unravel that mystery and even If he/she has to take a bad approach, he/she will have no regrets. Suppose you want to hide a key in your drawers, they will look for that key first, otherwise, they will not hesitate to break it. In the same way that may be mobile, money or anything even some discussion also, don’t try to hide from them.

Your child is the best and unique, stop comparing with others: If you don’t have faith and trust in your child, then where they can get confidence! I’m sure 99 out of 100 parents compare their child to someone else. They try to convince their child by drawing comparisons with other teenagers. It leaves a negative impact on the mind of any teenager and lowers self-image and self-esteem. Most of parents have the misconception that it is a kind of constructive discussion or comparison but it hits the child’s unconscious mind. It is the responsibility of the parents to identify the unique qualities of each teenager and inspire and help them to move forward in that direction. Trying to stop the child from there will be counterproductive.

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